I meant to post this story months ago, but for me sometimes it takes me a while to process events/emotions. Marriage has its ups and downs. It was around the new year and my husband and I were in a down. For me I feel most connected to my husband when we spend quality time together and when we communicate a lot. December for him is a busy work month and we spend most of our time together getting ready for Christmas. So this is where the disconnected for me started…
The other part that was weighing on me is what to do with my life now that I have had a full 4 months with all my kids in school. I have a 5th grader, 3rd grader, 1st grader and my baby started preK3 this past fall. My youngest is in school 9 hours a week. I know 9 hours doesn’t seam like much but for me that’s the beginning of this new lifestyle. I’ve turned a corner in motherhood. I now have time for myself that I haven’t had in over a decade.
So I was in a funk. I want to do more work wise and use some of my gifts and education… but I also feel the tug to be at home with my kids. This was coupled with not seeing my husband much and not having him as a sounding board that I need.
So when Christmas break came and he wanted to spend the whole week at home I lost it. He was quite blindsided by my emotions but I needed to get away. We didn’t want to spend a lot or do too much so we went to a resort only an hour away for just a one night getaway.
The hotel was a throwback to old time resort where they offer lots of activitys. For us all we needed was a hotel room a pool and a bar! We scored by it being attached to a brewery!
This trip was a refresh button. It was good to have a blow up with my husband. It brought us back to a place of better communication. It was a realization of how important our time as a couple is and how important it is to make the time to be together. It was nice to spend the time together as a family… swimming… playing board games… taking walks (even in the freezing weather) if nothing else but to get away from home and those 4 walls.
What do you do when your life feels out of balance? How do you hit the reset button in your relationship?